Better Options Initiative
The Quality of Parenting is one of the best predictors of a child’s adjustment to parental separation or divorce. If High Quality Parenting is maintained, the risk to the child is minimized.
At BOI, we believe parents love their children and want the best for them. When parents keep the emotional and psychological needs of the child as a priority, the child’s healthy emotional/psychological/social growth proceeds normally, despite the parental separation. The multiple stresses of parental separation are a big adjustment for parents. Sometimes they lose sight of the children’s needs as they struggle to meet their own needs. Knowing that quality parenting is attainable and effective can help parents maintain a healthy relationship with their child.
The quality of parental functioning is one of the best predictors of children’s behavior and well-being. (Amato 2000). In 2007, a major review article noted that only two dimensions of parenting consistently emerge as critical — parental warmth and parental control (discipline). [Suchman et. al 2007]
Warmth refers to a relationship between the parent and the child characterized by closeness, acceptance, responsiveness, support, and encouragement. It can be described as an overall positive emotional relationship with the child.
Effective discipline includes regularly monitoring the child’s behavior, having age-appropriate rules and expectations that are clearly communicated, and reasonable enforcement of rule compliance.
Quality parenting has been consistently linked to positive adjustments in children following divorce. [Morrill 2016.] At BOI we believe that if parents are exposed to better techniques, they will adopt these to help their children have a healthy adjustment to the major changes the family is going through. This includes better physical health both at the time and later in life. Research has shown that quality parenting also leads to better physical health outcomes for children of divorce when they are in their young adult years. [Fabricius and Luecken 2007.]
Negative child outcomes are predicted by low-quality parenting. If parents ignore or minimize children’s needs (i.e., “Oh, they’ll be fine!” or “They don’t know what is going on.” or “I’m sure that they know I love them.”), as the parents try to cope with the many issues separation involves, children are more likely to have adjustment difficulties. Nationally the trend is to recognize the stress of parental separation/divorce and make resources available for the parents.
Phone: (337) 534-0325
Fax: (337) 534-0427
219 W. Brentwood Blvd. Lafayette, LA 70506
To eliminate harm to Acadiana's children due to parental conflict.